- Get the new desireable fancy laced set of lingerie and DON’T wear it
- Don’t agree for the movie date, keep giving excuses of palour appointments, they will get the message.
- Call his mom for dinner, and don’t call him. He will keep wondering what the two girls are gossiping about him.
- This ones the best, it will surely work, like and comment on every post of his guy friends. That should surely trouble him.
- And last but not the least. The great entry to the door of nirvana should be blocked.
Reporting : Base camp chief
I am a base camp chief . How cool is that. In school I always wanted to be one of those macho girls who would whistle boys [in khadee half pants] around. Now though I don’t get to whistle around, I can still have the fancy title
Wondering what base camp chief is? Read here.
As a child I would be agitated by my mom’s act of giving away new stuff she bought for me to my cousin sister, just because my cousin liked them. How unfair! I mean, if you had to give it to her, why get it for me in the first place.
And I would go to one corner, make a grumpy face and sit like that the whole day, until night when I would be really hungry and mom would have cooked my favourite dish, and the world would be ‘all good again’
Taking my mom’s legacy forward, I will try and make someone else’s world ‘all good again.’
I will from my side buy 3 t shirts, so that 3 lesser privileged kids get 3 new t shirts from inkfruit. I will also try and buy a box of cookies from mithaimate.com so that someone else can get to eat fresh and not left over cookies that mithaimate will send on my behalf.
Sounds good,doesn’t it?
This way we can sit at home and order for anyone of these two things and the rest will be done for us. What’s best is we are not giving out old clothes. That’s disposal, not charity. I like the fact that it’s empathy and not sympathy.
If you like the idea visit give.ateetu.de for details. Or comment on this post for assistance.
I also urge you to become a base camp chief and help us spread the word.
Cross Posted from give.ateetu.de
Do I need to mention how much we women love shopping? No, I can, I mean if you wish to hear I can describe with pictures and diagrams how the hormonal imbalance and PMS issues get resolved if our bfs take us out for shopping . But that for a later date.
For now here’s a treat for shopaholics. You shop, did I tell you ‘cheap’ shop, and at the same time contribute to the society and all of that jazz. Here’s how…
Now that I finally got my new blog up and running here are my immediate thoughts.
I have changed a LOT since the last time I blogged. I have learnt so much. Superchooha gave me a life time of learning.
I have changed at personal level too. I remember reading this one line in APJ Abdul Kalam’s autobiography ‘Wings of Fire’. It kinda stuck to me.
It goes as, “When I was working on this project , I learnt that when your mind stretches to a new level it never goes back to its original dimension.”
Now I can never be the person I was two years back or a year back. Somewhere I miss the innocence we have when we are 22-23. When life has just began to become ‘happening’. When you know you can win the world with love and prayer and hope or when you can afford to be whimsical.
And then you enter the corporate world. We all know what happens there
Anyways, having said all of this, one point is worth highlighting. That every min, every moment you grow, you can never get back to that moment. Hence cherish it while it lasts.
A lot of my friends have been breaking up with their bfs off late. And most turned to me for help and consoling. Every time I would see a tear in their eye I would want to go and bash the guy up and kick where it hurts the most. But since that wasn’t an option that I could use on each one of them I thought ill try helping my friends instead. While doing so I realized I know a lot a tricks that can help you come out of the post breakup depression. So sharing with you guys. Try them out yourself if you have that aching heart or go help a friend by sharing these with him/her.
For sake of clear gender bias all my suggestions would be for her. However most could be used by you guys also.
So here I go
o Gather all gifts given by him and pack them up in a cupboard [don’t throw them away, they would become good memories after a few years or months maybe]. You don’t want to see them all around your house. The more you see them the more you will think of him.
o Go out as much as you can. Go shopping, go with your mom for grocery shopping, go give a lift to your younger sibling to school. There is no better way to STOP THINKING about him than to be busy or occupied.
o While you were busy getting those hugs and kisses from him you forgot to call those friends who cared for you. Now’s your time to call and apologize. Call almost everybody, school, college, building friends. Even call your Ex’es . They can be the best ego boosters and comfort givers. [is that a term comfort givers??]. Make sure this time you make special efforts to stay in touch even if you start dating again.
o Chocolates, icecreams and shopping do work. NO ITS NOT A MYTH. THESE ARE ACTUAL THERAPIES
o Mom’s can be of great help. You know what best to do with this one
o Don’t call him, text him, email or tweet. No, strict no. I know all that ‘we will be good friends’ works. But works only after you are completely over him. So don’t call him for week, a month or maybe two. Not until he is out of your system for good.
o Read. Reading always helps. Keep you busy and increases your knowledge at the same time.
o DO NOT LISTEN TO SAD SONGS unless you want dark circles under your eyes.
o How much ever people are against rebounds I am totally in for it. A rebound makes you help get out of that bad relationship. All that giving time to yourself doesn’t work. You can give that time to yourself after the rebound. [don’t hate me for this]. So go girl look out for hot guys, a good relationship or just a one night stand to get your nerves to stop sobbing. You know what I mean
o And last but not the least ‘cry it out’. Pretty woman, noting hill weren’t made for guys. They were made for us. That basket of chocolate icecream, that box of tissue and that favorite soft pillow of yours sprayed with the perfume he used to wear always helps. Cry and let it come out of your system.
Either you deserved better or it just wasn’t meant to happen. And if all this still doesn’t help..call me
The bridge is weak. Made of mainly wood, weeds. The strongest part of it being a few threads of jute rope. It was build a year and a half ago. The current is very strong. The flow of the water is obviously in one direction. Thus making one side of the bridge at the receiving end, more vulnerable than the other side.
It will sustain itself. For wood is strong. But for how long is the question. While I sit at the bank and see the bridge go through the trauma every day, I ask myself if I should maybe call an engineer, ask him how long the bridge would last. Should we break this one on purpose and build a new one. Or should we ask people to take a detour.
While I also think…let time be the engineer. Let it decide if the bridge stays intact. The bridge is weak…very weak…one leg almost broken. Seems like time has made its decision. And it’s only making the process unnecessarily slow.
What will happen the day time implements its decision. The bridge breaks. Hurting everybody who has traveled through the bridge, hurting everyone who built it, or was in any way attached to it.
But we fail to realize, time the destroyer…is the healer, the constructor too. As time passes…we forget about the old bridge. The engineer will be called for. A plan for a new stronger bridge will be laid down. While the debris of the old bridge has been swept away with the flow-strong flow of water.
We will use the new, concrete, strong bridge everyday to travel. And maybe once in a while think about the old bridge, and how it was build.
But the fact would be that we have moved on….all we had to do was wait for time to do its magic.
Dedicated to all my friends who are going to a tough phase.
Have known Dale Bhagwagar for more than a year now. I think he deserves much more than this post…but this is all that I can offer.
Dale Bhagwagar- The PR
His client list says it all. You had him turn Shekhar Suman’s image while I was a kid. And make a Controversy Queen out of Shilpa Shetty even when he had zero communication with her, as she faced racism in the big brother house. He even managed to turn a nobody Sheryln Chopra into a ‘news fodder’ that media started loving.
He knows to turn things around..flip things…use words in a way that will make you believe IN WHAT HE WANTS YOU TO BELIEVE IN. An image builder..he can even destroy it with his one stroke of shrewdness, if u get to the wrong side of his.
If there is one person on the earth who knows magic…its Dale Bhagwagar.
Dale Bhagwagar – The Man himself
Live life king size….do you??? Dale does. He lives in an island called MADH, which is far and not well connected to the city. Beach is at walkable distance. I doubt he goes for a walk though. Coz his society itself is heaven. Words wouldn’t exactly describe it. It’s best if you see the pics in his and his good friend’s blog.
Dale Bhagwagar- The Friend
A friend in need is a friend indeed. I cannot think of one occasion when he has not been there for me. He shares his knowledge, his positivity, his joys..his sorrows.
I am not alone here. Almost all friends of his will agree to me when I say this.
Dale Bhagwagar – The enemy
You feel suicidal. You don’t feel like living anymore. Is life treating you terribly? Here’s the solution…trouble dale. Just kidding. But he can get real fierce if he thinks you crossed the line or betrayed his trust. So beware there.
Dale Bhagwagar- Remember him after he dies
Dale here is my little contribution towards you being remembered for your unconventional working styles, for you adaptability levels, for your constant craving to learn new things, for your desire to be the KING OF ENTERTAINMENT PR WORLD.
Loads of love,
PS- If you yet haven’t added him on facebook..do it now.
Hello! As you may be aware, in February this year TARSHI, along with 20 other organizations initiated a campaign and an open letter pressing for support for sexuality education in India. It is 3 months since we sent this letter. In the interim, we have heard that a Parliamentary Committee headed by Mr. Venkaiah Naidu has disfavoured the introduction of sexuality education in schools.
We are resending the link to the open letter which can be found on the home page of www.tarshi.net and at http://tarshi.net/programs/public_edu/open_letter_sexuality.asp and urging to you to circulate this far and wide and encourage people to sign on to the letter. We truly hope we can make this initiative count!
Please read a news article related to the Parliamentary Committee report athttp://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/4409307.cms. The NACO chief is said to have slammed the same report by the Parliamentary Committee. Please read about it at http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/India/Naco-chief-slams-Venkaiah-report/articleshow/4418604.cms.
Please feel free to share this email among your networks, friends, colleagues, press contacts etc because every signature counts!
TARSHI (Talking About Reproductive and Sexual Health Issues)
11 Mathura Road, 1st Floor
Jangpura – B,
New Delhi – 110014, India
Phone: +91-11-24379070 /71
Sign the open Letter on Sexuality Education:
if you’re tagged DO IT.
if you’re not tagged DO IT.
Does your Facebook password have to do with a boy?
Not really,my password is ******** thats what it shows after i type it
Big or small purses?
BIG BIG BIG. have so much to carry,Even the big ones feel small.
Do you enjoy drama?
Yes only if i m in it
Did you dress up on Halloween?
If is had to play the beautiful princess haunted by ghosts i would have dressed up
Do you call anybody by their last name?
what does that have to be with me being a girl
Can you put on mascara without opening your mouth?
Hmmmmm havent noticed
Eyeliner or mascara?
Mascara….gives the defination to the eyelashes
American Eagle or Hollister?
Heels or Flats?
Skirts or jeans?
Skirts, love them
Curly or straight hair? god only knows… hate them
Hoops or dangling earrings?
Dangling for the last piercing,small beautiful delicate diamond stones for the others
Have you ever had your heart broken?
I believe in breaking hearts
Do you prefer light or dark haired guys?
Hair???where??? what….i meant beard….dark
Do you have a best friend?
Do you like your life?
Have you ever walked into the boy’s bathroom?
Have you ever jumped in the pool with your clothes on?
No,dont want to disappoint guys around
Ever slapped a guy in the face?
hahahahaha i am a non violent person…how i wish i wasnt…i can already think of boys i wud have wanted to slap
Have you ever cried yourself to sleep?
Have you ever not been able to get someone off of your mind?
Hmmmmm there r some lucky people
Do you ever wish you were famous?
naaah doesnt give me a kick
IN A BOY:
Preppy or Punk/goth?
Contacts or Glasses?:
Contacts….glasses act as aid to hide the lie thats hidden in their eyes
Good cook or take you out a lot?
Ask this question to anybody who knows me even a bit
Funny or Serious?
Cute or Hot?
Long or short hair?
Wont do justice if i answer this
Smoker or non-smoker?
Non-smoker.Smoking is a huge turnoff
Tall or short?
Again wont to justice if i answer this
Your best friend of the opposite sex likes you, what do you do?
Explain to him what the situation is.Dont think so would stop talking.
Have you ever seen someone you knew and purposely avoided seeing them?
So many times
Do you know anyone with such a terribly annoying voice that you can’t even stand?
On average what do you think you cry about the most?
Wont give it away. You would use it to make me cry…most men wud
Do you have a friend of the opposite sex that you can tell everything to?
Do you think best friends can be replaced?
Does the last person you held hands with mean a lot to you?
Yes he did
Do you think you have made a difference in anyone’s life?
So many…i make so many peoples life hell
Are you going anywhere next summer?
Are you waiting for anyone’s call right now?
Are you shy?
Do you announce when you have to pee?
Announce….if asking to excuse me is announcing yes i do
Are you good at hiding your feelings?
How is life going for you right now?
Do you trust people easily?
Yes unfortunately i do.but i m learning
Do you give out second chances easily?
Second third fourth fifth…
Do you smile a lot?
I dont know.i think i do…..do i??
One thing you’re looking forward to?
So many things
How do you feel about change?
Cant avoid it to learn to live with it
Have you ever cried from being so mad?
Have you ever lived with a younger brother?
yes will do this vacation too.why this question???
Last time you got a text message and smiled?
Have you ever made anyone laugh when they were crying?
I dont remember .I have definately made them cry
Did you ever laugh so hard you cried?
Are you happy?
Have you ever regretted letting someone go?
Do you prefer to be around people, or by yourself?
If you were abandoned in the wilderness, would you survive?
What am i doing now???
One of the inspirational stories which Barrie Su shares with me on facebook. I’ll call it the BARRIE SU PHILOSOPHER SERIES . No kidding….they are indeed inspiring,filled with opitmism.
Here you go.
A small story that might bring in a smile on our face and make us feel proud that we have made a difference to someone’s life.
Once upon a time there was a wise man who used to go to the ocean to do his writing.He had a habit of walking on the beach before he began his work.One day he was walking along the shore. As he looked down the beach, he saw a human figure moving like a dancer. He smiled to himself to think of someone who would dance to the day. So he began to walk faster to catch up. As he got closer, he saw that it was a young man and the young man wasn’t dancing, but instead he was reaching down to the shore, picking up something and very gently throwing it into the ocean.
As he got closer he called out, “Good morning! What are you doing?”
The young man paused, looked up and replied, “Throwing starfish in the ocean.”
“I guess I should have asked, why are you throwing starfish in the ocean?”
“The sun is up, and the tide is going out. And if I don’t throw them in they’ll die.”
“But, young man, don’t you realize that there are miles and miles of beach, and starfish all along it. You can’t possibly make a difference!”
The young man listened politely. Then bent down, picked another starfish and threw it into the sea, past the breaking waves and said, “It made a difference for that one.”
Each of us can make a difference to this world. Everybody is useful and it is just the matter of whether u want to make a difference.