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Breaking up season!

Posted by admin on Aug 30, 2009 in Personal

A lot of my friends have been breaking up with their bfs off late. And most turned to me for help and consoling. Every time I would see a tear in their eye I would want to go and bash the guy up and kick where it hurts the most. But since that wasn’t an option that I could use on each one of them I thought ill try helping my friends instead. While doing so I realized I know a lot a tricks that can help you come out of the post breakup depression. So sharing with you guys. Try them out yourself if you have that aching heart or go help a friend by sharing these with him/her.
For sake of clear gender bias all my suggestions would be for her. However most could be used by you guys also.
So here I go

o Gather all gifts given by him and pack them up in a cupboard [don’t throw them away, they would become good memories after a few years or months maybe]. You don’t want to see them all around your house. The more you see them the more you will think of him.

o Go out as much as you can. Go shopping, go with your mom for grocery shopping, go give a lift to your younger sibling to school. There is no better way to STOP THINKING about him than to be busy or occupied.

o While you were busy getting those hugs and kisses from him you forgot to call those friends who cared for you. Now’s your time to call and apologize. Call almost everybody, school, college, building friends. Even call your Ex’es . They can be the best ego boosters and comfort givers. [is that a term comfort givers??]. Make sure this time you make special efforts to stay in touch even if you start dating again.

o Chocolates, icecreams and shopping do work. NO ITS NOT A MYTH. THESE ARE ACTUAL THERAPIES

o Mom’s can be of great help. You know what best to do with this one

o Don’t call him, text him, email or tweet. No, strict no. I know all that ‘we will be good friends’ works. But works only after you are completely over him. So don’t call him for week, a month or maybe two. Not until he is out of your system for good.

o Read. Reading always helps. Keep you busy and increases your knowledge at the same time.

o DO NOT LISTEN TO SAD SONGS unless you want dark circles under your eyes.

o How much ever people are against rebounds I am totally in for it. A rebound makes you help get out of that bad relationship. All that giving time to yourself doesn’t work. You can give that time to yourself after the rebound. [don’t hate me for this]. So go girl look out for hot guys, a good relationship or just a one night stand to get your nerves to stop sobbing. You know what I mean :)

o And last but not the least ‘cry it out’. Pretty woman, noting hill weren’t made for guys. They were made for us. That basket of chocolate icecream, that box of tissue and that favorite soft pillow of yours sprayed with the perfume he used to wear always helps. Cry and let it come out of your system.

Either you deserved better or it just wasn’t meant to happen. And if all this still doesn’t help..call me :)

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Broken Bridges

Posted by admin on Jun 29, 2009 in Personal

The bridge is weak. Made of mainly wood, weeds. The strongest part of it being a few threads of jute rope. It was build a year and a half ago. The current is very strong. The flow of the water is obviously in one direction. Thus making one side of the bridge at the receiving end, more vulnerable than the other side.

It will sustain itself. For wood is strong. But for how long is the question. While I sit at the bank and see the bridge go through the trauma every day, I ask myself if I should maybe call an engineer, ask him how long the bridge would last. Should we break this one on purpose and build a new one. Or should we ask people to take a detour.

While I also think…let time be the engineer. Let it decide if the bridge stays intact. The bridge is weak…very weak…one leg almost broken. Seems like time has made its decision. And it’s only making the process unnecessarily slow.

What will happen the day time implements its decision. The bridge breaks. Hurting everybody who has traveled through the bridge, hurting everyone who built it, or was in any way attached to it.

But we fail to realize, time the destroyer…is the healer, the constructor too. As time passes…we forget about the old bridge. The engineer will be called for. A plan for a new stronger bridge will be laid down. While the debris of the old bridge has been swept away with the flow-strong flow of water.

We will use the new, concrete, strong bridge everyday to travel. And maybe once in a while think about the old bridge, and how it was build.

But the fact would be that we have moved on….all we had to do was wait for time to do its magic.

Love

Ankita

Dedicated to all my friends who are going to a tough phase.

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